Welcome to my new venture: 'Pleasure Anxiously'
For my fellow anxious babes, join me, Sensual Intimacy Coach Oli Lipski, in the pursuit of pleasure and the journey of learning how to love when struggling with anxiety.
Hello anxious pleasure seeker!
This is a very new venture, so I ask you to please be kind and gentle with me. Hi, my name is Oli, and I’m a sensitive, anxious, bisexual babe who is a little too obsessed with learning about pleasure and love. I have many thoughts about these topics that I’m desperate to share with you.
*If you are receiving this in your inbox, it is because you have at some point in the last 2 years given me your email, either as a previous client, downloaded an e-book, or took part in a giveaway. If you DON’T want to hear from me, I honestly won’t be offended if you hit unsubscribe a the bottom of this page.
To start, I’ll catch you up on how I got to this place - as it's often the first question I get when people find out I’m a Sensual Intimacy Coach. Having studied the history of sexuality and queer theory at university, and worked 7 years in the sex tech industry as a writer and researcher, I decided to create something of my own.
For the last few years, I’ve been coaching people 1:1 and facilitating group workshops on all things pleasure and relationships (more on this later). And it has been so incredible. A journey of highs and lows, ebbs and flows.
As someone who has struggled with my own mental health issues that have impacted my sex and love life, I get how hard it can be. I know the emotional pain that can come with seeking fulfilling intimacy and relationships. And I want to share this with you.
A quick note on sustainability
As a freelancer, and to be totally transparent, my energy and time = money. So while I’ll likely share some free posts, I’m hoping to make this space a sustainable arm of my practice, and will be monetising some of this content.
So, if you feel like this is your cup of (herbal) tea, or if you know someone who might benefit, and you would like to support me by paying or sharing the love!
I imagine this Substack is going to be a work in progress, subject to evolution, just like my life… I’m trying to be more open to the possibility for change in whatever form it may come. However, I’d like to layout my hopes and dreams for this space.
Here are 5 things you’ll likely receive if you choose to subscribe!
1. Pleasure tips & lessons on love
As I hope the name of the page suggests, (in ode of Love Actually), I’m going to be exploring my thoughts around the relationship between anxiety and pleasure and love; the philosophies, the psychologies, ancient teachings, indigenous practices, scientific research, and somatic tools.
I want to make this journey toward more fulfilling intimacy feel less challenging for you!
2. My journey with anxiety
I’m gonna be getting quite real on here… sharing some of my own experiences. I feel like I put so much expectation on myself, hiding parts I’m afraid of to appear “perfect” and “healed” when in truth, progress isn’t linear and I’ll admit, I’m a totally flawed and imperfect human, coach, friend, partner, lover, etc…
“Shame dies when stories are told in safe spaces.” -Ann Voskamp.
I hope this can be a safe place where some of my masks can be dropped for the chance to connect with you on this journey of mental health.
3. Bisexual thoughts & feels
I identify as bisexual, queer, a person who loves and desires multiple genders. The beauty and pain that has come with this identity and experience is something I feel really in need of sharing in case I can offer solace to others who are feeling the same.
I literally studied the history of bisexuality and queer theory, so I have plenty of knowledge on the topic of sexuality (and yet I still experience imposter syndrome lol - but that’s for another Substack)!
No matter what your sexuality is or how you identify, you are SO welcome here, and I’m always open to loving questions.
4. A community of like-minded babes
As many of you may also resonate with, the world feels increasingly disconnected (or maybe that’s just my feels as I work from home most of the time). I want to create a community that feels interactive. If you have questions or topics you want me to explore, I’m more than happy to hear them!
Plus your journeys, resources, and experiences are super valuable, and you never know how someone else might benefit from hearing your story!
5. Exclusive access to coaching, workshops, and resources!
And finally, this is also your invitation to connect with me. If you’re interested in diving deeper into this work, I have several offerings for us to work together!
This includes 1:1 coaching through my 2-month Sensual Intimacy Immersion Programme, my online course & e-book Sensual Guide to Sexual Fulfilment (coming soon), and exciting workshops and collaborations for you to enjoy!